The Art of the Deal
Evnen til at forhandle er måske det eneste træk, hvor mænd og kvinder er forskellige, når man lytter til feminister og ligestillingsdebattører i almindelighed. Det er en gammel traver at individuelle lønforhandlinger forfordeler kvinder. Tesen er at kvinder sætter deres lys under en skæppe, mens mænd, som følge af deres indbildske natur, forhandler deres vilkår aggressivt målrettet. Mænd tillader sig, hvad kvinder er for anstændige til og i mødet mellem de to køn efterlader mænds grådige begær altid kvinden som et offer.
Forleden kunne man fra Socialdemokratiets formand Mette Frederiksen læse et typisk opstød over prostitution, hvor kunden, manden, var så moralsk vakuøs at det var tvivlsomt om han overhovedet hørte til på arbejdsmarkedet.
»Jeg tror ikke, at en kunde hos en prostitueret bagefter kan gå ind og undervise en skoleklasse eller dømme i en retssal eller være politiker, politimand, eller hvad han er, på en måde, som er foreneligt med det, vi opfatter som ligestilling og respekt mellem kønnene,« siger Mette Frederiksen i bogen.
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»Det sætter sig, når vi har relationer, der er helt skæve,« siger hun videre i bogen.
Manden er kunden, kunden er skurken, skurken er manden er kunden er skurken…. Det er etableret, sådan er det, tænk ikke mere. Relationerne bliver helt skæve, forhandlingerne er besudlet.
Nuvel, men det er altid godt at nuancere, når man ikke ved hvad man skal sige. For et par år siden kunne man i Berlingske Tidende læse om Rasmus Jensen, der bedrev en sideforretning som gigolo, at kvinder også købte sex og mænd som mænd solgte. Forskellige typer af forskere var overraskede over at se en stigning af det fænomen, så langt som de overhovedet har haft en metode til at måle på befolkningens lumre privatliv. Men nogle tilsyneladende mere åbenlyse tal blev der refereret til for perspektivets skyld
Britisk forskning viser blandt andet, at næsten en tredjedel af de kvindelige vesterlændinge, der tager på ferie i Den Dominikanske Republik, siger, at de har haft sex med lokale mænd. Men selv om 60 procent af dem indrømmer, at deres forhold har »økonomiske aspekter«, anser de det ikke for at være prostitution. Men det er slet ikke så mærkeligt, mener Claus Lautrup. For kvinder romantiserer ofte »ferieaffæren« med den lokale gigolo:
»Kvinderne tror, at de får reel omsorg og kærlighed, men for mændene er det hardcore business og ikke andet. Det er helt tydeligt, at der ikke ville være noget forhold, hvis ikke der var penge involveret.«
Kvinden er kunden, kunden er offeret, offeret er kvinden er kunden er skurken… The Art of the Deal? Grab them by the pussy!
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Du lirer en af de sædvanlige udenoms-smører af: Ja, der er kvinder der også misbruger mænd i en underordnet og udsat position ved at udsætte dem for seksuelle overgreb, camoufleret med betaling.
Ligesom der er kvinder, som udsætter deres børn for incest. Og sågar kvinder som udsætter deres mænd for vold. Er incest og partnervold der med noget, vi skal se igennem fingre med, fordi “der findes kvinder” som udviser samme adfærd? Selvfølgelig skal vi ikke det. Lovgivningen, der kriminaliserer disse overgreb, nævner ikke kønnet, men handlingen som kriminel. Men selvfølgelig vil kvinder, i takt med stadig flere kvinders økonomiske frihed, overtage mænds, kulturelt betingede uskik med at misbruge et ulige magtforhold til at udsætte underlegne mænd for det magtmisbrug, der ligger gemt i prostitution. Hvorfor skulle de ikke det, når I ikke har lavet andet end at hyle og skrige op om, hvor helt OK prostitution er? Nu skal vi pludselige høre fornærmet - jeg var lige ved at skrive tøsefornærmet - snøfteri over disse kvinders adfærd. Vis selv vejen: Fordøm handlingen, seksuelle overgreb, camoufleret med betaling. Så vil kvinder andel af selvsamme helt af sig selv få samme stempel som klam taberadfærd.
Skrigeskinken Mette har med sine bemærkninger om prostitutionens moralske konsekvenser ironisk nok også lige sendt Thorvald Staunings historiske omdømme til tælling! -
Han var - om nogen - kendt som en uforfærdet “pussy-grabber”!
Margrethe, det er en frit opfundet påstand at sammenligne incest og vold med en handel indgået blandt to voksne mennesker. Og for at få denne påstand til at hænge sammen filer du nådesløst på ordene og taler om at betaling er camouflage. Det er den ikke, den er reel.
At der blandt prostituerede er mange der har en ganske deprimerende baggrund kan ikke lede til din konklusion, nemlig at prostitutionen er overgrebet. Du glemmer helt at hvor prostitution for et menneske er en desperat løsning, så vurderer det menneske alle alternativer som værende dårligere. Ved at forbyde prostitution, direkte eller indirekte, løser ingen problemer, men kriminaliserer man blot de mennesker, der i forvejen befinder sig i en situation de anser som desperat.
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